Monthly Archives: January 2011

Trying something different

We had a marathon love-making session last night, and I feel almost as though I’m walking like Paul Newman in his patent leather boots.

Tried something different as well. Who knows why, but men love their porn, so I went down on him while he watched one of his porn films.

Yes, I know that porn is demeaning to women and all that, but seeing how turned on he was as I stroked and sucked help turn me on quite sufficiently.

Photo by The Naughty American

Why not try this? You don’t have to watch the porn yourself…

But if you sneak a peek you might find you like it. Maybe.


Mud-wrestling anyone?

Photo by Tom Godber

My lover has just asked me if I would take part in some healthy mud wrestling with another member of my gender.

Ordinarily his requests don’t rile me up as much as this one has. I don’t have a problem with other women, as – as per a previous request from my lover – I have dabbled in a little one-on-one with a woman.

No, it is not this request that has galled me – it is the wrestling in the mud thing.

I feel like there is nothing more demeaning than this. After years of men cheering on half-naked women as they wrestle against each other to whoops and calls of men hoping to see bosoms slide together in the wetness, I am left with a little bile in the back of my throat.

No, there’s nothing endearing about this challenge. I’m sure that wrestling is fun, but making an idiot of yourself as you flounder about is not a turn-on.

What do you think?

Position of the Month: Missionary

It is no coincidence that I choose missionary position as the first position to deal with in this monthly series – it is one of the most neglected positions in mainstream media, as for some reason being risque and using more acrobatic positions are the flavour of the era.

Missionary position is, as we all know, easy to accomplish. It is also an all-round pleasure bringer: your lover can reach in as deep as he likes, and if he bothers with your orgasm, the movement of his pelvis can combine with his thrusting movements in a way that is very pleasing for the woman’s clitoris.

The trick for the woman is sometimes deep strokes inside and shallow strokes of the pelvis – this sounds complicated, but with practice is quite simple. The strokes should also be perfectly timed, because we all know our ladies are a little picky when it comes to clitoral stimulation. Keeping a rhythm is the trick here, boys and girls. Remember, it’s not the size of the waves but the motion of the ocean!

Word of the Month – Caress

/kəˈrɛs/ [kuh-res]

an act or gesture expressing affection, as an embrace or kiss, esp. a light stroking or touching.
–verb (used with object)
to touch or pat gently to show affection.
to touch, stroke, etc., lightly, as if in affection
to treat with favor, kindness, etc.

This word comes all the way from 1605 – 15 in France and Italy meaning literally “dear”.

I don’t think a pill will solve my FSDD…

Sadly for you, I am returning to a topic I touched upon in my post last week that insisted there was nothing wrong with us women regarding sexual health, no matter how different we all are to each other.

The issue has become controversial because of the opposing views of several sides for and against labelling women’s sexual issues as female sexual dysfunction disorder.

Many are wondering whether the disorder is a “dream” of big pharmaceutical companies who are hoping to make money off of a female version of viagra.

There is a lot of debate about whether female sexual problems should be made into medical problems, and concerns have been raised about incorrect prescriptions made and women assessed along lines too similar to those used to diagnose erectile dysfunction in men.

My argument is that for women, enjoying sex is not just a physical thing. As my lover often tells me, he could easily sleep with another woman and his feelings would never get in the way. But sex is something completely different for women: there are feelings involved; there’s a certain amount of compassion and need involved; we feel as though we need to be closer to someone.

Men are sometimes really only interested in relief.

I heard a lovely description of the female orgasm once – it isn’t as simple as rubbing the right spot:

– the woman is intrigued by the man of her desire, appealing to her mind;

– she is pleased with what she sees, appealing to her eyes; she savours his scent, appealing to her nose;

– she feels his lips on hers and tastes him, appealing to her mouth and throat;

– his nearness causes her heart to flutter; the trust she has just shown him enters her solar plexus;

– she becomes hungry for him; she feels a connection to his genetics as her polar opposite through her loins; and

– finally her orgasm reaches through her base to shoot up her spine and through her spirit.

Do you think the problem of not having an orgasm is purely physical then?  Do you think it could be solved with a little pink pill?

Perhaps the symptoms could be, but then we’d just be men.

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