There are mainly 10 things that might be the cause of a lower libido if you think that your sex life is lacking. An occasional drop in your sex drive is normal, and varies from person to person, as do the reasons for lowered sex drive. These can be:
– Illness: It goes without saying that you won’t feel sexy when you’re nose is stuffy and red, your eyes are swollen and your throat is croaky. Pre- or post-menstrual stress will also cause a drop in your sex drive.
– A new baby: Well, this one is also pretty obvious! If there’s a new baby in the house, your constant attention is required by them, aside from waking up every three hours to feed the bundle of joy, lactating and being completely unsure of why they won’t stop crying. Also, because your oestrogen levels are now much lower, your sex drive also lowers and your vaginal walls could dry up, leading to painful sex.
– Stress: another no-brainer – all your energy, including sexual energy, is sucked up when you under stress, whether it be at work, home or elsewhere.
– Medication: drugs, such as antidepressants, medication for hypertension, sedatives and birth control pills, can decrease your libido.
– Drugs and alcohol: indulging in too many drugs and too much alcohol might result in more sexual encounters, but in the long run your sex drive will be affected.
– Lifestyle: changes in lifestyle, from changing partners, moving homes, being on a diet, can all change your libido. Even though these are positive lifestyle changes, they can affect your libido in a negative way, because they also count as stress.
– Depression: if you’re unhappy, sex will not be a priority.
– Body image: if you don’t feel comfortable in your body, sex will not be a pleasing experience for you and you would rather hide yourself away than be exposed in such an intimate act. This is why it is so important to love your body!
– Problems in your relationship: there are days when you’re really not interested in your partner’s sexual satisfaction, but if your libido is low for a long time, consider whether there are any issues in your relationship that need to be dealt with. If you’re not happy or there’s tension between you and your partner, your sexual desire will fall.
– Getting older: sex drive can change along with the changing hormones you experience as a woman getting older and heading towards or past menopause. This all depends on the person though, because in some cases sexual drive increases with age.
So, only once you can count out all of these issues as possible reasons for a low libido, should you consider being treated for FSD!