Monthly Archives: March 2011

Want an abortion in South Dakota?


Sad woman

Photo by Graur Codrin from FreeDigitalPhotos.Net


I like to think that my body is my own, and what I do with it is up to me.

But South Dakota in the US has become the first state in the country to make it compulsory for all women who want an abortion to attend a consultation at “pregnancy help centers” to learn about any help they can get to keep the child.

I know that abortion is a difficult subject for many people, because, firstly, people – I say people because it is not only the woman involved in sex – can protect protect themselves from pregnancy, and secondly, because it’s a little life inside of you that you’re killing.

My issue about this law though is that if a woman is raped, it means she has to keep the baby. Never mind the fact that it was made in fear, horror, hate, power, control… and not love. If she can look after the baby, she has to have it. Sure, she can give the child up for adoption if that is one of the options allowed, but we all know how much emotional and psychological pain this causes for both the child and the mother in the future.

Another thing I’m wondering about: the US is trying to cut funding for Planned Parenthood, an organization focused on helping people plan for and deal with children. The organization has been struck out at for supporting abortion, and this is why the funding is being cut. But are there other such organizations in the country? What are these supposed “pregnancy help centers” they are talking about if Planned Parenthood no longer exists? Without a dedicated organization that can deal with your issue professionally, will you have to go to a clinic to attend these consultations? Or, even worse, a police station?

Photo by Graur Codrin from


Tips – Have a headache?

Image by m_bartoschWomen are renowned for using this excuse to get out of making love, mostly because we’re not in the mood, or for whatever reason.

My tip for this week: if you’re using this line as an excuse, rather be honest with your lover and tell them you’re not in the mood, you’re tired, you’re stressed at work… tell them the real reason you don’t want to make love.

Besides, you can’t really use the excuse because it has been proven that sex boosts your happiness levels, and this helps get rid of a headache – in other words, having sex and orgasming will relieve you in more ways than one.

If you really have a headache, here are some natural remedies you can try:

– Squeeze the juice out of three or four lemon slices into a cup of tea – it’s supposed to give immediate relief.

– Remove the rind and core of an apple and consume only the soft bits with a little bit of salt before eating.

– if your headache was caused by hot sun, rub some henna flowers – if you can find them! – in some vinegar and apply over your forehead.

– if your headache was caused by cold air, make a paste of the spice with water, and spread over the forehead and temples, or infuse rosemary leaves in water and inhale the smell for as long as you can.

– For nervous headaches, infuse marjoram leaves in some water and take it as a tea.

– Headaches can be prevented by a healthy diet and by drinking plenty of water. You can also try give yourself a hot foot bath, meditate or do some yoga!

Image by m_bartosch

Word of the Month – Adore

/əˈdɔr, əˈdoʊr/ [uh-dawr, uh-dohr]
–verb (used with object)
to regard with the utmost esteem, love, and respect; honor.
to pay divine honor to; worship: to adore god.
to like or admire very much
–verb (used without object)
to worship.

More about the pic of the week – The Ecstacy of Saint Teresa


The Ecstasy of Saint Teresa by Felicien Rops

The Ecstasy of Saint Teresa by Felicien Rops

This image is about the supposedly intimate attachment Saints have to god. I think in psychoanalysis, sexual ecstasy is linked to religious ecstasy as a replacement to each other.


This quote is from Saint Teresa’s description of her religious ecstasy:

“I saw in his hand a long spear of gold, and at the iron’s point there seemed to be a little fire. He appeared to me to be thrusting it at times into my heart, and to pierce my very entrails; when he drew it out, he seemed to draw them out also, and to leave me all on fire with a great love of God. The pain was so great, that it made me moan; and yet so surpassing was the sweetness of this excessive pain, that I could not wish to be rid of it”.

More men undergoing cosmetic surgery

We always complain as women that we are tired of society’s standards for attractiveness being applied to us, but perhaps it is the same for men?

Besides, they are confronted by lean, lithe men wherever they look: television ads, films, Sports Illustrated and other magazines, even pornography – and their wives and girlfriends are daydreaming about the “ruggedly handsome” men they read about in their erotic novels. Why would they not feel intimidated by these chiselled men?

And it seems that, for some men, this intimidation has worn off their esteem to make them want to go for the ole’ nip-tuck.

According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, the number of men opting for facelifts increased by 14% last year compared to 2009. Men also underwent over 1.1 million cosmetic procedures. The fastest-growing cosmetic procedures among men are: facelifts; ear surgery; soft tissue fillers; botulinum toxin type A; liposuction; male breast reduction :O ; Eyelid surgery; dermabrasion; laser hair removal; and laser treatment of leg veins.

Curiously, many of the men are known as “men’s men” – the kind of men you wouldn’t expect to have even considered such procedures.

So girls, you’re not the only ones! Does this make you consider having cosmetic surgery more seriously?