Tips – 10 things good girls can learn from porn

Every man has watched porn. You heard me – every man.

Why do women not watch porn? Mostly it’s for personal reasons along the line of seeing women being taken advantage of and objectified for men’s pleasure.

But what is wrong with being a sex object sometimes?

Here are ten things good girls might learn from watching porn, if they were interested:

Men like a view

Our men love to see what they’re doing, what we’re doing, where they’re going – everything. They want to see it all. So why not set up mirrors to give your man an overall view of what he’s up to? Can’t stand mirrors? Just close your eyes and enjoy the moment!

Don’t negotiate with sexual favours

If you’re going down on your man because you want him to take out the trash and not because you know he enjoys it, stop! Things that turn you on should not be rationed and negotiated. If you’re in a loving relationship, you please him because you want to please him, and he will do the same.

Men are highly visual

This means that they use their eyes more than their imaginations (note: this is just a generalisation, but men do fantasize as well!), so enhance your experience with your lover by wearing some sexy lingerie, leaving on your sigh-high heels, making some extra effort to get him aroused. Also, never underestimate the power of your flesh! Men love to see you naked just as much, and even more, than they do seeing you squished up in uncomfortable and scratchy corsets. It’s also all about the surprise – if he’s not expecting it, do it!

Be vocal

Aside from experiencing things in a visual way, men also like to hear your arousal. If you stick to a set of phrases to show you’re turned on, why not add to your script with statements of what you like that’s he’s doing right now, or asking him if he likes what you’re doing. You can even give him a play-by-play of what he’s doing to you, adding in little notes of pleasure here and there for effect.

Experiment with what he likes

Everyone is different – you yourself are a case-in-point. Play with your lover’s body and find out what they like, because they have dozens of erogenous zones. Play around with his body, and remember not to take offense if what you do isn’t pleasing him just because you thought it would. Just giggle and take it in your stride as you move on to a different spot.

Know what you like

Pleasing your man is just as important as pleasing yourself. Find out what works for you, because not knowing what you like or what turns you on the most is like a deaf man leading the blind. Once you know how to please yourself, you can involve your man by teaching him how, showing off while you’re making love, or turning yourself on even more.

Men love blow-jobs

Judging by the frequency of oral sex in films, you can gather that men have a thing for blow-jobs. Just you being in that area and suggesting going down on him is good enough to get his blood pumping. Make sure they can see you!

Get a toy

Sometimes having a toy is all you need to spice up your sex life a little. It will help you and your lover find new ways of pleasure, while it will also give him a break!

Don’t be afraid to fantasize

Porn is all about the fantasy – it’s all about doing something you wouldn’t normally do. The trick is to be open about your fantasies, and not take offense at what turns your partner on. In fact, these fantasies can bring an extra dimension to your sex life because sharing them creates intimacy and sparks amazing sex. Discuss your boundaries beforehand, and decide how you will signal to your partner that you’ve had enough of the scenario. But don’t take part in anything that makes you uncomfortable! Remember that sex involves two people – not just one.

Men really want to please you

Although the whole object of pornography is to please men, the films are really about pleasing the women. Depending on the type of pornography you’re watching, you will never see a woman not enjoying what she is participating in. Men really enjoy pleasing women, and this is why they enjoy everything being done to them, and let their men know vocally. So make sure you let your man know exactly how much you like what he’s doing to you.

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7 responses to “Tips – 10 things good girls can learn from porn

  1. Brilliant. Sex is a mutual thing. Fantasy role plays, techniques, sometimes I am the slave sometimes she is. Lovely post.

    • That’s right; sex is about give and take. One partner cannot always give and one cannot always take – this is not fulfilling either sexually or in relationship terms! And learn to play!

  2. There’s a lot I can learn from you to please my lover. She’ll be delighted. I look forward to your posts. My guidelines. Hello! Girls/women also don’t like crude porn. They don’t want to feel like porn stars. It’s got to be soft and sensual and erotic with a touch of emotions. Right?

    • They don’t want to feel like porn stars – you’re right! Porn stars are objectified and probably not respected, but if a woman is doing something that appears regularly in porn and she is respected by her lover, she won’t feel like a porn star at all! 🙂

  3. I like the approach that asks a woman what she wants, please her, her fantasies and finally I can hold on and please my self in the END. That’ll be a pleasure well earned. right? If she gets a kick out of a porn-star role play- so be it. If she wants to play Juliet with romeo singing songs and reciting poems, so be it. If she says only mout play. So be it.

    i believe that a woman is like a clothes iron. Slow to heat up and slow to cool down. So I’ll be concerned about following the heat graph to the end. Once she is happy I am like a torchlight that can switch on and off instantly or with a long lighted pause.

  4. Pingback: Tips – Erogenous zones to focus on your man | sextips4goodgirls

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