Monthly Archives: April 2011

Word of the Month – Penetrate

pen·e·trate
/ˈpɛnɪˌtreɪt/ [pen-i-treyt]
–verb
1.
to pierce or pass into or through
2.
to enter the interior of
3.
to affect or impress (the mind or feelings) deeply.
4.
to enter, reach, or pass through something, as by piercing
5.
to have a deep effect or impact on someone.

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Tips – Staying together when times are tough

Sad couple photostock freedigitalphotosMajor events can disrupt the gentle movement of your relationship, and sometimes it won’t survive.

Here are the most important things to remember to survive the big changes:

1. Communication
Never stop speaking to each other. Communication is the key to happiness, and honesty is the best policy. It will do neither of you good if both of you wish only to avoid an argument. Sharing burden will make it lighter; not sharing it will place you in a position where you’ll feel separated from your partner when you need them the most.

2. Support each other
Be there for one another through everything. Remember not to break your partner down, and help them to build their confidence in any means possible. Make each other feel better about, not only themselves, but the situation too, and being positive will help make them positive as well.

3. Don’t blame!
When you seem to be struggling up a long hill, it’s easy to blame your partner for getting you onto that hill, but remember that this is not wise, nor is it productive. Make each other feel better, not worse.

4. Understand that times are tough
Remember that during at times like these, it is the most important thing to realise that this is so, and try to understand what it is your partner is going through – it shouldn’t be too difficult! After all, you’re going through it as well.

5. Remember you’re a team
When you signed up to be with yuor partner, you signed up to be part of the most important team in your life. Remember that neither of you can do alone what you can do together. Discuss and plan and enact everything together, and involve each other in everything.

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Inspired by “How to survive major life changes together

Tips – Erogenous zones to focus on your man

Your man is not his penis. There is so much more to making love than focusing all your energy on this one tiny place of your man’s body.

There are several erogenous zones you can explore. Remember that everyone is different though, so finding your man’s particular zones will take some experimentation.

But this is part of the fun!

1. His inner thighs – touching, kissing, licking and biting the inner thighs is neglected and usually feels good for most men.

2. His neck – after a passionate kiss, moving on to the neck is quite a turn-on; try different parts of the neck, such as under the ears or behind them – even the ears themselves; nibbles and soft bites will do well, especially if you increase their intensity along with your passion.

3. His chest – the chest is a man’s most exposed symbol of masculinity, and seeing your appreciation of it will be a huge turn-on; the nipples are also sensitive, but it’s important to remember that they are also sensitive, and their sensitivity varies between men.

4. The groin crease – this is the part at the top of his thighs that meets his torso; remember this area is very seldom touched, so exploring here is quite erotic.

5. His scrotum – this is a highly erotic area – not only because of its sensitivity but also its delicacy; remember to be gentle because squeezing the testicles too hard is sore, but it does feel good; sucking or licking the testicles is also a great idea.

6. The perianal section, or the perineum – giving your man attention here is supposed to be quite pleasant, but this does depend on the man.

7. The head of the penis – the head of the penis is possibly the most sensitive and pleasurable spot on a man’s body – most of the nerves are targeted here.

Q&A: Struggling to orgasm

Dear Purdita

I’m struggling to have an orgasm. I’ve been in a relationship for a few years now, and I didn’t have a problem in the beginning, but it seems I’m struggling more now. My lover is getting worried because he thinks that I don’t have feelings for him anymore. What do I do?

Worried

Dear Worried

I would like to encourage you to stop worrying, and remember that as you grow older and change, so does your body and the way it responds to different stimuli. Have you tried to speak to your lover to tell them that you need to try something different? Explain to him that you still love him very much, and would like to try out a few different techniques. You can try everything from clitoral stimulation and oral sex to different positions. If your lover is worried too, and truly loves you, he will jump at the opportunity to please you. In every way!

Good luck!

Purdy

11yos being provided with condoms

I am of the firm belief that children should not be having sex until they are adults. Sex brings along a whole bunch of emotions, beliefs and experiences that children should really not be worrying about in their formative years.

Do you agree?

Well, apparently 11 year olds in Philadelphia in the US don’t.

Health officials apparently have no choice in the matter, and have been forced to provide children as young as 11 with condoms.

The city has the highest number of sexually active teens below the age of 13 among big cities. Children are cutting school to have sex – even to have mini-orgies – while others don’t even bother leaving the school grounds.

So now I am faced with a conundrum, because I believe that these children are way too young to be even thinking of sex, nevermind having sex! But they are, obviously, and condoms will at least protect them from sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

What is the problem here? Why are children who are so young engaging in sexual acts? Is it parenting? Is it lack of supervision? Is it too much sex on television? Is it access to porn? What do you think?