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Tips – Staying together when times are tough

Sad couple photostock freedigitalphotosMajor events can disrupt the gentle movement of your relationship, and sometimes it won’t survive.

Here are the most important things to remember to survive the big changes:

1. Communication
Never stop speaking to each other. Communication is the key to happiness, and honesty is the best policy. It will do neither of you good if both of you wish only to avoid an argument. Sharing burden will make it lighter; not sharing it will place you in a position where you’ll feel separated from your partner when you need them the most.

2. Support each other
Be there for one another through everything. Remember not to break your partner down, and help them to build their confidence in any means possible. Make each other feel better about, not only themselves, but the situation too, and being positive will help make them positive as well.

3. Don’t blame!
When you seem to be struggling up a long hill, it’s easy to blame your partner for getting you onto that hill, but remember that this is not wise, nor is it productive. Make each other feel better, not worse.

4. Understand that times are tough
Remember that during at times like these, it is the most important thing to realise that this is so, and try to understand what it is your partner is going through – it shouldn’t be too difficult! After all, you’re going through it as well.

5. Remember you’re a team
When you signed up to be with yuor partner, you signed up to be part of the most important team in your life. Remember that neither of you can do alone what you can do together. Discuss and plan and enact everything together, and involve each other in everything.

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11yos being provided with condoms

I am of the firm belief that children should not be having sex until they are adults. Sex brings along a whole bunch of emotions, beliefs and experiences that children should really not be worrying about in their formative years.

Do you agree?

Well, apparently 11 year olds in Philadelphia in the US don’t.

Health officials apparently have no choice in the matter, and have been forced to provide children as young as 11 with condoms.

The city has the highest number of sexually active teens below the age of 13 among big cities. Children are cutting school to have sex – even to have mini-orgies – while others don’t even bother leaving the school grounds.

So now I am faced with a conundrum, because I believe that these children are way too young to be even thinking of sex, nevermind having sex! But they are, obviously, and condoms will at least protect them from sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

What is the problem here? Why are children who are so young engaging in sexual acts? Is it parenting? Is it lack of supervision? Is it too much sex on television? Is it access to porn? What do you think?

Who should be responsible for taking the pill?

Contraceptive Wikimedia Commons Anka GrzywaczThere are many contraceptive options on the market nowadays; one of these is the male pill.

But how many people are interested in this form of contraception?

According to research by a Dr Susan Walker, only half of the women and men she questioned said they would use the male pill when it came on the market.

The women were apparently worried that their partners would forget to take the pill, while some of the men believed taking the pill would detract from their masculinity, because a contraceptive pill was culturally associated with women.

Strangely, men weren’t concerned about the pill having an effect on them biologically, such as causing infertility, but the fact that the pill was associated with femininity. On the other end of the scale, some men believed that taking the pill would be the more responsible way of practising masculinity.

If you’re a woman, how do you feel about your man taking the pill, and if you’re a man, how would you feel taking the pill?

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Say you’re happy

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I know that sometimes nothing seems to go right; sometimes you just feel ugly and untalented, but just remember that it’s not true!

There is nothing in this world more true than you – just the way you are.

What you need to do is say you’re happy, and you’re happy.

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Baby boomer parents supporting their adult children

Maybe I’m just being too judgemental, but I feel sad for all those parents still looking after their children who are way into adulthood already. I know this hasn’t anything to do with sex, but … in a way it does, because sex is about relationships and this is about relationships…

According to a recent study, over half of the Baby Boom-generation’s mothers support their children financially. Of the women who took part of the survey, nine percent said they had their children return to live with them for indefinite periods, while 12 percent were responsible for their adult children’s financial well-being. A shocking 31 percent of them had children who came back home with the intent of becoming independent, but they were still financially supporting them.

I think this is really horrible. Parents work their whole lives to help their children grow into responsible adults, and then they’re repaid by having to use the money they’ve saved for years for their own retirement to continue looking after their children.

I wonder what it is about that generation of parents – what was it in the manner that they raised their children to make it so their children aren’t financially independent?

Perhaps it has nothing to do with this, and everything to do with the fact that living in today’s and age is difficult and expensive. But if some people are making it without their parents, why can’t all of them? Maybe these baby boomer parents were so happy to have children that they let them get away with everything, gave them everything and continue to do so.

What are your views?