Category Archives: health

Q&A: Struggling to orgasm

Dear Purdita

I’m struggling to have an orgasm. I’ve been in a relationship for a few years now, and I didn’t have a problem in the beginning, but it seems I’m struggling more now. My lover is getting worried because he thinks that I don’t have feelings for him anymore. What do I do?

Worried

Dear Worried

I would like to encourage you to stop worrying, and remember that as you grow older and change, so does your body and the way it responds to different stimuli. Have you tried to speak to your lover to tell them that you need to try something different? Explain to him that you still love him very much, and would like to try out a few different techniques. You can try everything from clitoral stimulation and oral sex to different positions. If your lover is worried too, and truly loves you, he will jump at the opportunity to please you. In every way!

Good luck!

Purdy

Who should be responsible for taking the pill?

Contraceptive Wikimedia Commons Anka GrzywaczThere are many contraceptive options on the market nowadays; one of these is the male pill.

But how many people are interested in this form of contraception?

According to research by a Dr Susan Walker, only half of the women and men she questioned said they would use the male pill when it came on the market.

The women were apparently worried that their partners would forget to take the pill, while some of the men believed taking the pill would detract from their masculinity, because a contraceptive pill was culturally associated with women.

Strangely, men weren’t concerned about the pill having an effect on them biologically, such as causing infertility, but the fact that the pill was associated with femininity. On the other end of the scale, some men believed that taking the pill would be the more responsible way of practising masculinity.

If you’re a woman, how do you feel about your man taking the pill, and if you’re a man, how would you feel taking the pill?

Image by Anka Grzywacz, WikiMedia Commons

Say you’re happy

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I know that sometimes nothing seems to go right; sometimes you just feel ugly and untalented, but just remember that it’s not true!

There is nothing in this world more true than you – just the way you are.

What you need to do is say you’re happy, and you’re happy.

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Q&A: I’m not getting turned on…what do I do?

Dear Purdita

I haven’t been able to get in the mood…what is wrong with me, and what can I do?

Please help

Dear Please help

The first thing you need to consider is that there is nothing wrong with  you! Are you stressed? Are you tired? Are your emotions in chaos? Are you going through that time of the month, or other hormonal changes?

All these physical aspects will have an effect on your libido – many people call this female sexual dysfunction now, but I believe that many of these issues are the result of other physical and psychological issues. Here are some tips on changing your situation.

If none of these things are causing your distress, it is possible that you need to see a professional to deal with your personal issues.

Good luck!

Purdy

Want an abortion in South Dakota?

 

Sad woman

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I like to think that my body is my own, and what I do with it is up to me.

But South Dakota in the US has become the first state in the country to make it compulsory for all women who want an abortion to attend a consultation at “pregnancy help centers” to learn about any help they can get to keep the child.

I know that abortion is a difficult subject for many people, because, firstly, people – I say people because it is not only the woman involved in sex – can protect protect themselves from pregnancy, and secondly, because it’s a little life inside of you that you’re killing.

My issue about this law though is that if a woman is raped, it means she has to keep the baby. Never mind the fact that it was made in fear, horror, hate, power, control… and not love. If she can look after the baby, she has to have it. Sure, she can give the child up for adoption if that is one of the options allowed, but we all know how much emotional and psychological pain this causes for both the child and the mother in the future.

Another thing I’m wondering about: the US is trying to cut funding for Planned Parenthood, an organization focused on helping people plan for and deal with children. The organization has been struck out at for supporting abortion, and this is why the funding is being cut. But are there other such organizations in the country? What are these supposed “pregnancy help centers” they are talking about if Planned Parenthood no longer exists? Without a dedicated organization that can deal with your issue professionally, will you have to go to a clinic to attend these consultations? Or, even worse, a police station?

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