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Ideas of things you might like to try.

Personal Experience – Planning Ahead

I love to do this! Especially if you’re spending a day at work.

All you have to do is drop a few hints in the morning, and then phone your lover intermittently during the day, mentioning that you’d like to make love him when you get home.

The expectation will build for both yourself and your lover, and making love at the end of the day will be amazing!

The last time I did this was about a month ago. It started with a simple mention, and then hints during our phone calls.

When he arrived home in the afternoon, neither of us could wait, and we made our way to the bedroom without even shutting the door behind us, tearing off each other’s clothing on the way there. It’s amazing what a little bit of expectation can do! 🙂

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Seven places to make love

Sexy Couple by Dynamite ImageryCouples usually retreat to the bedroom to make love, but this is a simple way of falling into a habit.

Why not add some spice to your sex life and make love in a different place?

1. The bath – Although this might seem like an uncomfortable place to make love, especially if you have a small bath, this is some of the intrigue behind making love here. Making love in the bathroom is the ideal place to have a giggle and a laugh, because simply trying to get into a position where your man can be inside you is part of the fun.

2. The kitchen counter – Making love on the kitchen counter adds a bit of sleaze to your lovemaking. Usually making love in the kitchen is not associated with lengthy oral sex or intimate touching, but rather quick, dirty and passionate sex.

3. On a couch – Making love in your lounge adds some excitement to your routine, simply because it is not normally a place that you would make love. The worry about making a mess is exciting, and remembering the last naughty thing the pair of you did on that couch when your parents or friends visit gives you and your lover a secret to share and smile knowingly at each other about.

4. In the car – I’ll admit that this is still on my to-do list, but I imagine that making love in the car adds a teen sense of adventure to your lovemaking. You know, sort of like a stolen moment or a spontaneous decision.

5. On the stairs – This is another one of those times when you can make a memory to giggle about, and if you’re in the right position, you might have a great orgasm with the risky feeling you get that you might be caught. Even if it’s your private stairs at home.

6. Against the wall – Making love against the wall is quite a feat for a couple, but what’s nice about it is that both partners have to put some effort into the lovemaking. The woman needs to use her hips and legs to keep the rhythm created by her man. If her man is really strong, he can lift her up and down on his shaft, which also makes the woman a little more excited, if for no other reason than her man is passionate enough to put in so much effort.

7. In an unfamiliar bed – Making love in a bed you’ve never been in before, and one in which countless couples have made love, also adds some edge to your lovemaking.

What is important to remember about making love in different places is that it really depends on your mood whether you enjoy it or not. If you’re not feeling particularly voyeuristic, making love on the stairs might not do it for you.

These different options are also great for role-playing adventures.

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Tips – Giving a great handjob

Handjob by Johann Nepomuk GeigerThe most important thing to remember when it comes to getting your man off by hand is lubrication!

It has to be wet, slimy, slippery – if your hand gets sticky, it might chaff and this will get you, and him, nowhere.

How you keep his erection slippery is up to you – there are several lubricants on the market, but I would suggest going for a water-based lube instead of an oil-based one. KY Jelly is also not recommended, as it seems to work best with your natural secretions.

A good way to start is to ask your man beforehand how he masturbates. If he’s open enough, he might give you a hint or two on how he likes it.

Remember that his lower erogenous zones are not focused on his penis alone – his testacles can also be very sensitive and feeling you play with them can be very erotic. There is also the anogenital region, which, for some men, is great for stimulation. Apparently the area just below the head of his erect penis on the bottom is also very sensitive, so try that spot as well. Again, every man is different, so try to ask questions as you go along to make sure you’re getting it right.

Another trick is to vary the amount that you close your hand around his erection. Try tightening and loosening your fingers alternately – you’ll know how your man is liking it. Try to think about the rhythm and stroke your man uses when he is making love to you, and attempt to simulate it. Sometimes it’s fast and sometimes it’s slow, but the way your man reacts to your touch is really your cue on how well you’re doing and how much he’s enjoying it.

You can also try to use both hands, as this covers more surface area.

Try to tease him a little with your tongue and your mouth, but since this is a handjob, try not to get too carried away down there!

Tips – Ideas for romance

Couple jumping photostock freedigitalphotosRomance can be both daunting and elusive, but it can be an essential part of a relationship.

Romance need not bring about any stress, as it has a variety of meanings and is a completely subjective part of the relationship. What is romantic to one couple might not be romantic to another couple, so it really depends on personal experience and taste.

But you do need to get the basics right!

Here are five things about being romantic you should never forget:

1. Remember the language of romance: certain words epitomize the language of love, and come all the way from the courtly love traditions of France and England. Here are some words you should know.

2. Compliment your lover’s skills! Telling them how talented and unique they are is certain to cause a little butterfly burst in their stomach. They need to know that you believe they are worth being with.

3. Compliment your lover’s looks. It is so important that your lover knows how beautiful or handsome you think they are. Telling them how attractive you find them is sure to keep you in their good books!

4. Remember what your lover likes: the type of flowers; the kind of food; their favorite chocolate. Remembering small details such as these will show your lover you care.

5. Keep it simple. Remember that to be romantic you don’t need to be extravagant. There is no need to send up an airplane declaring your love, although it is an amazing gesture. It is the little romances every day that keeps the spark alive for the long-term.

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Tips – 10 things good girls can learn from porn

Every man has watched porn. You heard me – every man.

Why do women not watch porn? Mostly it’s for personal reasons along the line of seeing women being taken advantage of and objectified for men’s pleasure.

But what is wrong with being a sex object sometimes?

Here are ten things good girls might learn from watching porn, if they were interested:

Men like a view

Our men love to see what they’re doing, what we’re doing, where they’re going – everything. They want to see it all. So why not set up mirrors to give your man an overall view of what he’s up to? Can’t stand mirrors? Just close your eyes and enjoy the moment!

Don’t negotiate with sexual favours

If you’re going down on your man because you want him to take out the trash and not because you know he enjoys it, stop! Things that turn you on should not be rationed and negotiated. If you’re in a loving relationship, you please him because you want to please him, and he will do the same.

Men are highly visual

This means that they use their eyes more than their imaginations (note: this is just a generalisation, but men do fantasize as well!), so enhance your experience with your lover by wearing some sexy lingerie, leaving on your sigh-high heels, making some extra effort to get him aroused. Also, never underestimate the power of your flesh! Men love to see you naked just as much, and even more, than they do seeing you squished up in uncomfortable and scratchy corsets. It’s also all about the surprise – if he’s not expecting it, do it!

Be vocal

Aside from experiencing things in a visual way, men also like to hear your arousal. If you stick to a set of phrases to show you’re turned on, why not add to your script with statements of what you like that’s he’s doing right now, or asking him if he likes what you’re doing. You can even give him a play-by-play of what he’s doing to you, adding in little notes of pleasure here and there for effect.

Experiment with what he likes

Everyone is different – you yourself are a case-in-point. Play with your lover’s body and find out what they like, because they have dozens of erogenous zones. Play around with his body, and remember not to take offense if what you do isn’t pleasing him just because you thought it would. Just giggle and take it in your stride as you move on to a different spot.

Know what you like

Pleasing your man is just as important as pleasing yourself. Find out what works for you, because not knowing what you like or what turns you on the most is like a deaf man leading the blind. Once you know how to please yourself, you can involve your man by teaching him how, showing off while you’re making love, or turning yourself on even more.

Men love blow-jobs

Judging by the frequency of oral sex in films, you can gather that men have a thing for blow-jobs. Just you being in that area and suggesting going down on him is good enough to get his blood pumping. Make sure they can see you!

Get a toy

Sometimes having a toy is all you need to spice up your sex life a little. It will help you and your lover find new ways of pleasure, while it will also give him a break!

Don’t be afraid to fantasize

Porn is all about the fantasy – it’s all about doing something you wouldn’t normally do. The trick is to be open about your fantasies, and not take offense at what turns your partner on. In fact, these fantasies can bring an extra dimension to your sex life because sharing them creates intimacy and sparks amazing sex. Discuss your boundaries beforehand, and decide how you will signal to your partner that you’ve had enough of the scenario. But don’t take part in anything that makes you uncomfortable! Remember that sex involves two people – not just one.

Men really want to please you

Although the whole object of pornography is to please men, the films are really about pleasing the women. Depending on the type of pornography you’re watching, you will never see a woman not enjoying what she is participating in. Men really enjoy pleasing women, and this is why they enjoy everything being done to them, and let their men know vocally. So make sure you let your man know exactly how much you like what he’s doing to you.