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Tutorials of different techniques to pleasure your partner and yourself.

Tips – Erogenous zones to focus on your man

Your man is not his penis. There is so much more to making love than focusing all your energy on this one tiny place of your man’s body.

There are several erogenous zones you can explore. Remember that everyone is different though, so finding your man’s particular zones will take some experimentation.

But this is part of the fun!

1. His inner thighs – touching, kissing, licking and biting the inner thighs is neglected and usually feels good for most men.

2. His neck – after a passionate kiss, moving on to the neck is quite a turn-on; try different parts of the neck, such as under the ears or behind them – even the ears themselves; nibbles and soft bites will do well, especially if you increase their intensity along with your passion.

3. His chest – the chest is a man’s most exposed symbol of masculinity, and seeing your appreciation of it will be a huge turn-on; the nipples are also sensitive, but it’s important to remember that they are also sensitive, and their sensitivity varies between men.

4. The groin crease – this is the part at the top of his thighs that meets his torso; remember this area is very seldom touched, so exploring here is quite erotic.

5. His scrotum – this is a highly erotic area – not only because of its sensitivity but also its delicacy; remember to be gentle because squeezing the testicles too hard is sore, but it does feel good; sucking or licking the testicles is also a great idea.

6. The perianal section, or the perineum – giving your man attention here is supposed to be quite pleasant, but this does depend on the man.

7. The head of the penis – the head of the penis is possibly the most sensitive and pleasurable spot on a man’s body – most of the nerves are targeted here.

Seven places to make love

Sexy Couple by Dynamite ImageryCouples usually retreat to the bedroom to make love, but this is a simple way of falling into a habit.

Why not add some spice to your sex life and make love in a different place?

1. The bath – Although this might seem like an uncomfortable place to make love, especially if you have a small bath, this is some of the intrigue behind making love here. Making love in the bathroom is the ideal place to have a giggle and a laugh, because simply trying to get into a position where your man can be inside you is part of the fun.

2. The kitchen counter – Making love on the kitchen counter adds a bit of sleaze to your lovemaking. Usually making love in the kitchen is not associated with lengthy oral sex or intimate touching, but rather quick, dirty and passionate sex.

3. On a couch – Making love in your lounge adds some excitement to your routine, simply because it is not normally a place that you would make love. The worry about making a mess is exciting, and remembering the last naughty thing the pair of you did on that couch when your parents or friends visit gives you and your lover a secret to share and smile knowingly at each other about.

4. In the car – I’ll admit that this is still on my to-do list, but I imagine that making love in the car adds a teen sense of adventure to your lovemaking. You know, sort of like a stolen moment or a spontaneous decision.

5. On the stairs – This is another one of those times when you can make a memory to giggle about, and if you’re in the right position, you might have a great orgasm with the risky feeling you get that you might be caught. Even if it’s your private stairs at home.

6. Against the wall – Making love against the wall is quite a feat for a couple, but what’s nice about it is that both partners have to put some effort into the lovemaking. The woman needs to use her hips and legs to keep the rhythm created by her man. If her man is really strong, he can lift her up and down on his shaft, which also makes the woman a little more excited, if for no other reason than her man is passionate enough to put in so much effort.

7. In an unfamiliar bed – Making love in a bed you’ve never been in before, and one in which countless couples have made love, also adds some edge to your lovemaking.

What is important to remember about making love in different places is that it really depends on your mood whether you enjoy it or not. If you’re not feeling particularly voyeuristic, making love on the stairs might not do it for you.

These different options are also great for role-playing adventures.

Image by Dynamite Imagery

Tips – Giving a great handjob

Handjob by Johann Nepomuk GeigerThe most important thing to remember when it comes to getting your man off by hand is lubrication!

It has to be wet, slimy, slippery – if your hand gets sticky, it might chaff and this will get you, and him, nowhere.

How you keep his erection slippery is up to you – there are several lubricants on the market, but I would suggest going for a water-based lube instead of an oil-based one. KY Jelly is also not recommended, as it seems to work best with your natural secretions.

A good way to start is to ask your man beforehand how he masturbates. If he’s open enough, he might give you a hint or two on how he likes it.

Remember that his lower erogenous zones are not focused on his penis alone – his testacles can also be very sensitive and feeling you play with them can be very erotic. There is also the anogenital region, which, for some men, is great for stimulation. Apparently the area just below the head of his erect penis on the bottom is also very sensitive, so try that spot as well. Again, every man is different, so try to ask questions as you go along to make sure you’re getting it right.

Another trick is to vary the amount that you close your hand around his erection. Try tightening and loosening your fingers alternately – you’ll know how your man is liking it. Try to think about the rhythm and stroke your man uses when he is making love to you, and attempt to simulate it. Sometimes it’s fast and sometimes it’s slow, but the way your man reacts to your touch is really your cue on how well you’re doing and how much he’s enjoying it.

You can also try to use both hands, as this covers more surface area.

Try to tease him a little with your tongue and your mouth, but since this is a handjob, try not to get too carried away down there!

When he’s away

Woman faceThere are certainly times when your lover is not with you for a while.

I know you miss him terribly – the bed is cold; the room is silent; you are thinking about him and missing his smell, his taste…

As you lie there, you decide you need some satisfaction. But, if you’re in a committed relationship, is there any satisfaction to be had?

Of course there is! As I’ve explained before, satisfying yourself is the first step to discovering your own sexuality. The most important points to remember are:

– There’s nothing wrong with exploring your body;

– Do what makes you feel the best: I know my lover has these images in his head that women use practically their whole hands inside and around their delicate areas (a la pornography), but if all you need is a little clitoral stimulation, that’s ok!

– Breathe deeply – this intensifies the feeling and gives you more of an intense orgasm.

Things you can try include using a well-purchased toy – if you like them, of course – rub yourself through your panty to give you that first-time feel, restrict your legs (ie we all open our legs when we enjoy making love – try to keep your legs open-yet-closed), or try masturbating in a different part of the house, like in your office chair or in the bath.

Let me know if you’ve tried these techniques? And how did they feel?

Trying something different

We had a marathon love-making session last night, and I feel almost as though I’m walking like Paul Newman in his patent leather boots.

Tried something different as well. Who knows why, but men love their porn, so I went down on him while he watched one of his porn films.

Yes, I know that porn is demeaning to women and all that, but seeing how turned on he was as I stroked and sucked help turn me on quite sufficiently.

Photo by The Naughty American

Why not try this? You don’t have to watch the porn yourself…

But if you sneak a peek you might find you like it. Maybe.