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Tips – Ideas for romance

Couple jumping photostock freedigitalphotosRomance can be both daunting and elusive, but it can be an essential part of a relationship.

Romance need not bring about any stress, as it has a variety of meanings and is a completely subjective part of the relationship. What is romantic to one couple might not be romantic to another couple, so it really depends on personal experience and taste.

But you do need to get the basics right!

Here are five things about being romantic you should never forget:

1. Remember the language of romance: certain words epitomize the language of love, and come all the way from the courtly love traditions of France and England. Here are some words you should know.

2. Compliment your lover’s skills! Telling them how talented and unique they are is certain to cause a little butterfly burst in their stomach. They need to know that you believe they are worth being with.

3. Compliment your lover’s looks. It is so important that your lover knows how beautiful or handsome you think they are. Telling them how attractive you find them is sure to keep you in their good books!

4. Remember what your lover likes: the type of flowers; the kind of food; their favorite chocolate. Remembering small details such as these will show your lover you care.

5. Keep it simple. Remember that to be romantic you don’t need to be extravagant. There is no need to send up an airplane declaring your love, although it is an amazing gesture. It is the little romances every day that keeps the spark alive for the long-term.

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Tips – Be happy!

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Although a bit off-topic, 160 studies on the link between a good state of mind and longevity show that happier people are healthier and live longer.

As an example, they proffer a study of 5 000 university students, whom were followed throughout their lives. The students who were more pessimistic died younger.

So, my tips on being happy are:

– Be grateful for what you have, because many people don’t even have that.

– Look around you and appreciate the beauty of the world, be it a ray of sunshine coming into your room or a flower on the side of the road.

– Stop thinking in terms of “I can’t” and think in terms of “I deserve”. All humans deserve to be happy and healthy, to have a job they love, hobbies they enjoy and a happy relationship. When you stop thinking of these things in the way that you can’t have them, they will make their way to you.

– Believe that everything happens for a reason. Doors that have been closed to you only open other doors, but you need to be aware of their existence, otherwise they’ll disappear.

– Get a pet! Feeling responsible for and looking after another creature gives you a feeling that you’re needed. And it has been proven that people with pets are happier. It doesn’t have to be a dog if you don’t like dogs – there are many things that you can devote yourself to.

– Go outside. Fresh air will help clear your mind, and walking on the earth will ground you. Take your pet out for a walk – even if it’s an iguana!

– Masturbate! 🙂 This has an uncanny way of making you feel better! Promise!

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Tips – 10 things good girls can learn from porn

Every man has watched porn. You heard me – every man.

Why do women not watch porn? Mostly it’s for personal reasons along the line of seeing women being taken advantage of and objectified for men’s pleasure.

But what is wrong with being a sex object sometimes?

Here are ten things good girls might learn from watching porn, if they were interested:

Men like a view

Our men love to see what they’re doing, what we’re doing, where they’re going – everything. They want to see it all. So why not set up mirrors to give your man an overall view of what he’s up to? Can’t stand mirrors? Just close your eyes and enjoy the moment!

Don’t negotiate with sexual favours

If you’re going down on your man because you want him to take out the trash and not because you know he enjoys it, stop! Things that turn you on should not be rationed and negotiated. If you’re in a loving relationship, you please him because you want to please him, and he will do the same.

Men are highly visual

This means that they use their eyes more than their imaginations (note: this is just a generalisation, but men do fantasize as well!), so enhance your experience with your lover by wearing some sexy lingerie, leaving on your sigh-high heels, making some extra effort to get him aroused. Also, never underestimate the power of your flesh! Men love to see you naked just as much, and even more, than they do seeing you squished up in uncomfortable and scratchy corsets. It’s also all about the surprise – if he’s not expecting it, do it!

Be vocal

Aside from experiencing things in a visual way, men also like to hear your arousal. If you stick to a set of phrases to show you’re turned on, why not add to your script with statements of what you like that’s he’s doing right now, or asking him if he likes what you’re doing. You can even give him a play-by-play of what he’s doing to you, adding in little notes of pleasure here and there for effect.

Experiment with what he likes

Everyone is different – you yourself are a case-in-point. Play with your lover’s body and find out what they like, because they have dozens of erogenous zones. Play around with his body, and remember not to take offense if what you do isn’t pleasing him just because you thought it would. Just giggle and take it in your stride as you move on to a different spot.

Know what you like

Pleasing your man is just as important as pleasing yourself. Find out what works for you, because not knowing what you like or what turns you on the most is like a deaf man leading the blind. Once you know how to please yourself, you can involve your man by teaching him how, showing off while you’re making love, or turning yourself on even more.

Men love blow-jobs

Judging by the frequency of oral sex in films, you can gather that men have a thing for blow-jobs. Just you being in that area and suggesting going down on him is good enough to get his blood pumping. Make sure they can see you!

Get a toy

Sometimes having a toy is all you need to spice up your sex life a little. It will help you and your lover find new ways of pleasure, while it will also give him a break!

Don’t be afraid to fantasize

Porn is all about the fantasy – it’s all about doing something you wouldn’t normally do. The trick is to be open about your fantasies, and not take offense at what turns your partner on. In fact, these fantasies can bring an extra dimension to your sex life because sharing them creates intimacy and sparks amazing sex. Discuss your boundaries beforehand, and decide how you will signal to your partner that you’ve had enough of the scenario. But don’t take part in anything that makes you uncomfortable! Remember that sex involves two people – not just one.

Men really want to please you

Although the whole object of pornography is to please men, the films are really about pleasing the women. Depending on the type of pornography you’re watching, you will never see a woman not enjoying what she is participating in. Men really enjoy pleasing women, and this is why they enjoy everything being done to them, and let their men know vocally. So make sure you let your man know exactly how much you like what he’s doing to you.

Tip – Use color when making love

I’m sure you know about color therapy: that a certain color can affect the way you’re feeling.

Well, you can also apply this to making love by choosing the colors of your clothes for a particular purpose.

When you wear red, it symbolizes both love and infatuation. It can also inspire passion and excitement.

Pink is the color that symbolizes sexuality, while it is also a color that men find attractive on a woman.

Wearing purple is also attractive to a man, as it symbolizes sensuality and also shows you’re in the mood to be a little naughty.

Silver attracts a man’s eyes to you constantly and makes you feel more powerful as you make love. Black is also a color that affects your emotions, making you feel wild, sexy and perfect, and men also love black because it’s naughty.

Try wearing a color that reflects the way you feel, or the way you want to feel, or the way you want your man to feel!

How did it go? I would love to know!

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Tip – stick it in the air

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It sounds vulgar I know, but this appeals to your lover’s primal, animal-like instincts of just taking you when you’re available.

Lie on your stomach and tilt your bottom in the air. This is even more effective if you’re playing with yourself already. It’s a view that your lover cannot resist (unless they’re really ill), and you should be prepared to welcome him as he climbs in between your legs and gets ready to pound you.

I can almost guarantee that he’ll already be hard for you. Why not surprise your lover this way as he’s preparing for work? Morning quickies are, after all, a great start to the day! 🙂