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Q&A: I’m not getting turned on…what do I do?

Dear Purdita

I haven’t been able to get in the mood…what is wrong with me, and what can I do?

Please help

Dear Please help

The first thing you need to consider is that there is nothing wrong with  you! Are you stressed? Are you tired? Are your emotions in chaos? Are you going through that time of the month, or other hormonal changes?

All these physical aspects will have an effect on your libido – many people call this female sexual dysfunction now, but I believe that many of these issues are the result of other physical and psychological issues. Here are some tips on changing your situation.

If none of these things are causing your distress, it is possible that you need to see a professional to deal with your personal issues.

Good luck!



Why do you have a low libido?

There are mainly 10 things that might be the cause of a lower libido if you think that your sex life is lacking. An occasional drop in your sex drive is normal, and varies from person to person, as do the reasons for lowered sex drive. These can be:

– Illness: It goes without saying that you won’t feel sexy when you’re nose is stuffy and red, your eyes are swollen and your throat is croaky. Pre- or post-menstrual stress will also cause a drop in your sex drive.

– A new baby: Well, this one is also pretty obvious! If there’s a new baby in the house, your constant attention is required by them, aside from waking up every three hours to feed the bundle of joy, lactating and being completely unsure of why they won’t stop crying. Also, because your oestrogen levels are now much lower, your sex drive also lowers and your vaginal walls could dry up, leading to painful sex.

– Stress: another no-brainer – all your energy, including sexual energy, is sucked up when you under stress, whether it be at work, home or elsewhere.

– Medication: drugs, such as antidepressants, medication for hypertension, sedatives and birth control pills, can decrease your libido.

– Drugs and alcohol: indulging in too many drugs and too much alcohol might result in more sexual encounters, but in the long run your sex drive will be affected.

– Lifestyle: changes in lifestyle, from changing partners, moving homes, being on a diet, can all change your libido. Even though these are positive lifestyle changes, they can affect your libido in a negative way, because they also count as stress.

– Depression: if you’re unhappy, sex will not be a priority.

– Body image: if you don’t feel comfortable in your body, sex will not be a pleasing experience for you and you would rather hide yourself away than be exposed in such an intimate act. This is why it is so important to love your body!

– Problems in your relationship: there are days when you’re really not interested in your partner’s sexual satisfaction, but if your libido is low for a long time, consider whether there are any issues in your relationship that need to be dealt with. If you’re not happy or there’s tension between you and your partner, your sexual desire will fall.

– Getting older: sex drive can change along with the changing hormones you experience as a woman getting older and heading towards or past menopause. This all depends on the person though, because in some cases sexual drive increases with age.

So, only once you can count out all of these issues as possible reasons for a low libido, should you consider being treated for FSD!

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Marijuana causes impotence

Recent research has found that men who smoke marijuana might be tempting fate and risking their potency.

Sexual dysfunction might be the result of their casual smoke.

Research is contradictory, but apparently the penis contains receptors for the active ingredient in marijuana.

This is interesting, considering the only experience I’ve had thus far is the extended lovemaking session! 😉

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My ideas for treating FSD

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I do apologise if I’m going on about this Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD) thing too much – if I am, please feel free to complain! 😉

Anyway, BioSante Pharmaceuticals Inc has apparently presented “critical” date on the need for medication for this problem. The “data” relates to the fact that a large number of the physicians reported they hear about 37 unsolicited inquiries from women regarding sexual dysfunction a month. They have until now been treating these women with doses of male hormone testosterone.

These physicians were also not happy with the lack of options for them to prescribe to their patients.

But that is the problem with the Western world, isn’t it? They focus on treating symptoms instead of treating the cause.

Of course, I don’t really come from any professional stance, since I’m not a doctor or anything. But even though I suffer from a lack of libido at times, I am in tune enough with my body to know that it is because I’m emotional, or sensitive, or tired, or whatever.

I am in no position to prescribe treatments for supposed FSD, but I would give you an idea of what I try:

– Spend some time on your own – perhaps you need to regroup;
– Relax and spoil yourself;
– Change your diet;
– Do some exercise;
– Stay away from cereal in the morning – you do know it was invented to quieten the sexual appetite, right?

Let me know how you feel after a few weeks?

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FSD: companies are selling us a disorder

You know me and my argument against female sexual dysfunction (FSD).

The latest in my research regarding this subject is an article that talks about Charletta, a happily married woman who was obviously desperate to have an orgasm on a regular basis. She went so far as to have an experimental electrode threaded up near her spinal cord, but was disappointed when all it did was stimulate her left knee reflex.

Sexual health pundits are telling women all over the world that they cannot have an orgasm because they suffer from FSD.

But even filmmaker Liz Canner disagrees. She says that aside from the pharmaceutical companies trying to sell us a drug to cure our dysfunction, they are really trying to sell us a disorder. The companies met in the late 1990s, and described FSD broadly as any sex-related anxiety, indifference or unfulfillment a woman experienced in a year. So, if you’re feeling off twelve times a year as a result of your period and you’re indifferent to having sex at that moment, you have FSD. If your cervix is swollen just after your period and your anxious about having sex because there may be some pain, you have FSD. If you can’t reach an orgasm because you’re not turned on, you have FSD.

Now all this discussion about FSD is causing women all over the world to think there is something wrong with them. Case in point: a college student who had “vaginal rejuvenation surgey” – made her vagina tighter – so that she could have an orgasm. Sadly for her she ended up in hospital with a hemorrhage – it is after all quite a sensitive spot you’re working on.

I still adamantly stick to my original opinion that there is nothing wrong with you if you cannot reach orgasm a lot of the time. Most women don’t. Imagine the lucrative profits these companies would make if the majority of women believed that a pill could “cure” them? I would imagine they would market the drug as a long-term remedy, i.e. use for an extended period of time, and buy many many many containers of pills before feeling the effects.

Or maybe women will just become addicted to the false sensations. Orgasms are nice after all.

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