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Tips – Staying together when times are tough

Sad couple photostock freedigitalphotosMajor events can disrupt the gentle movement of your relationship, and sometimes it won’t survive.

Here are the most important things to remember to survive the big changes:

1. Communication
Never stop speaking to each other. Communication is the key to happiness, and honesty is the best policy. It will do neither of you good if both of you wish only to avoid an argument. Sharing burden will make it lighter; not sharing it will place you in a position where you’ll feel separated from your partner when you need them the most.

2. Support each other
Be there for one another through everything. Remember not to break your partner down, and help them to build their confidence in any means possible. Make each other feel better about, not only themselves, but the situation too, and being positive will help make them positive as well.

3. Don’t blame!
When you seem to be struggling up a long hill, it’s easy to blame your partner for getting you onto that hill, but remember that this is not wise, nor is it productive. Make each other feel better, not worse.

4. Understand that times are tough
Remember that during at times like these, it is the most important thing to realise that this is so, and try to understand what it is your partner is going through – it shouldn’t be too difficult! After all, you’re going through it as well.

5. Remember you’re a team
When you signed up to be with yuor partner, you signed up to be part of the most important team in your life. Remember that neither of you can do alone what you can do together. Discuss and plan and enact everything together, and involve each other in everything.

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Tips – Erogenous zones to focus on your man

Your man is not his penis. There is so much more to making love than focusing all your energy on this one tiny place of your man’s body.

There are several erogenous zones you can explore. Remember that everyone is different though, so finding your man’s particular zones will take some experimentation.

But this is part of the fun!

1. His inner thighs – touching, kissing, licking and biting the inner thighs is neglected and usually feels good for most men.

2. His neck – after a passionate kiss, moving on to the neck is quite a turn-on; try different parts of the neck, such as under the ears or behind them – even the ears themselves; nibbles and soft bites will do well, especially if you increase their intensity along with your passion.

3. His chest – the chest is a man’s most exposed symbol of masculinity, and seeing your appreciation of it will be a huge turn-on; the nipples are also sensitive, but it’s important to remember that they are also sensitive, and their sensitivity varies between men.

4. The groin crease – this is the part at the top of his thighs that meets his torso; remember this area is very seldom touched, so exploring here is quite erotic.

5. His scrotum – this is a highly erotic area – not only because of its sensitivity but also its delicacy; remember to be gentle because squeezing the testicles too hard is sore, but it does feel good; sucking or licking the testicles is also a great idea.

6. The perianal section, or the perineum – giving your man attention here is supposed to be quite pleasant, but this does depend on the man.

7. The head of the penis – the head of the penis is possibly the most sensitive and pleasurable spot on a man’s body – most of the nerves are targeted here.

Personal Experience – Planning Ahead

I love to do this! Especially if you’re spending a day at work.

All you have to do is drop a few hints in the morning, and then phone your lover intermittently during the day, mentioning that you’d like to make love him when you get home.

The expectation will build for both yourself and your lover, and making love at the end of the day will be amazing!

The last time I did this was about a month ago. It started with a simple mention, and then hints during our phone calls.

When he arrived home in the afternoon, neither of us could wait, and we made our way to the bedroom without even shutting the door behind us, tearing off each other’s clothing on the way there. It’s amazing what a little bit of expectation can do! 🙂

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Seven places to make love

Sexy Couple by Dynamite ImageryCouples usually retreat to the bedroom to make love, but this is a simple way of falling into a habit.

Why not add some spice to your sex life and make love in a different place?

1. The bath – Although this might seem like an uncomfortable place to make love, especially if you have a small bath, this is some of the intrigue behind making love here. Making love in the bathroom is the ideal place to have a giggle and a laugh, because simply trying to get into a position where your man can be inside you is part of the fun.

2. The kitchen counter – Making love on the kitchen counter adds a bit of sleaze to your lovemaking. Usually making love in the kitchen is not associated with lengthy oral sex or intimate touching, but rather quick, dirty and passionate sex.

3. On a couch – Making love in your lounge adds some excitement to your routine, simply because it is not normally a place that you would make love. The worry about making a mess is exciting, and remembering the last naughty thing the pair of you did on that couch when your parents or friends visit gives you and your lover a secret to share and smile knowingly at each other about.

4. In the car – I’ll admit that this is still on my to-do list, but I imagine that making love in the car adds a teen sense of adventure to your lovemaking. You know, sort of like a stolen moment or a spontaneous decision.

5. On the stairs – This is another one of those times when you can make a memory to giggle about, and if you’re in the right position, you might have a great orgasm with the risky feeling you get that you might be caught. Even if it’s your private stairs at home.

6. Against the wall – Making love against the wall is quite a feat for a couple, but what’s nice about it is that both partners have to put some effort into the lovemaking. The woman needs to use her hips and legs to keep the rhythm created by her man. If her man is really strong, he can lift her up and down on his shaft, which also makes the woman a little more excited, if for no other reason than her man is passionate enough to put in so much effort.

7. In an unfamiliar bed – Making love in a bed you’ve never been in before, and one in which countless couples have made love, also adds some edge to your lovemaking.

What is important to remember about making love in different places is that it really depends on your mood whether you enjoy it or not. If you’re not feeling particularly voyeuristic, making love on the stairs might not do it for you.

These different options are also great for role-playing adventures.

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Tips – Have a headache?

Image by m_bartoschWomen are renowned for using this excuse to get out of making love, mostly because we’re not in the mood, or for whatever reason.

My tip for this week: if you’re using this line as an excuse, rather be honest with your lover and tell them you’re not in the mood, you’re tired, you’re stressed at work… tell them the real reason you don’t want to make love.

Besides, you can’t really use the excuse because it has been proven that sex boosts your happiness levels, and this helps get rid of a headache – in other words, having sex and orgasming will relieve you in more ways than one.

If you really have a headache, here are some natural remedies you can try:

– Squeeze the juice out of three or four lemon slices into a cup of tea – it’s supposed to give immediate relief.

– Remove the rind and core of an apple and consume only the soft bits with a little bit of salt before eating.

– if your headache was caused by hot sun, rub some henna flowers – if you can find them! – in some vinegar and apply over your forehead.

– if your headache was caused by cold air, make a paste of the spice with water, and spread over the forehead and temples, or infuse rosemary leaves in water and inhale the smell for as long as you can.

– For nervous headaches, infuse marjoram leaves in some water and take it as a tea.

– Headaches can be prevented by a healthy diet and by drinking plenty of water. You can also try give yourself a hot foot bath, meditate or do some yoga!

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