Major events can disrupt the gentle movement of your relationship, and sometimes it won’t survive.
Here are the most important things to remember to survive the big changes:
Never stop speaking to each other. Communication is the key to happiness, and honesty is the best policy. It will do neither of you good if both of you wish only to avoid an argument. Sharing burden will make it lighter; not sharing it will place you in a position where you’ll feel separated from your partner when you need them the most.
2. Support each other
Be there for one another through everything. Remember not to break your partner down, and help them to build their confidence in any means possible. Make each other feel better about, not only themselves, but the situation too, and being positive will help make them positive as well.
3. Don’t blame!
When you seem to be struggling up a long hill, it’s easy to blame your partner for getting you onto that hill, but remember that this is not wise, nor is it productive. Make each other feel better, not worse.
4. Understand that times are tough
Remember that during at times like these, it is the most important thing to realise that this is so, and try to understand what it is your partner is going through – it shouldn’t be too difficult! After all, you’re going through it as well.
5. Remember you’re a team
When you signed up to be with yuor partner, you signed up to be part of the most important team in your life. Remember that neither of you can do alone what you can do together. Discuss and plan and enact everything together, and involve each other in everything.
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Your man is not his penis. There is so much more to making love than focusing all your energy on this one tiny place of your man’s body.
There are several erogenous zones you can explore. Remember that everyone is different though, so finding your man’s particular zones will take some experimentation.
But this is part of the fun!
1. His inner thighs – touching, kissing, licking and biting the inner thighs is neglected and usually feels good for most men.
2. His neck – after a passionate kiss, moving on to the neck is quite a turn-on; try different parts of the neck, such as under the ears or behind them – even the ears themselves; nibbles and soft bites will do well, especially if you increase their intensity along with your passion.
3. His chest – the chest is a man’s most exposed symbol of masculinity, and seeing your appreciation of it will be a huge turn-on; the nipples are also sensitive, but it’s important to remember that they are also sensitive, and their sensitivity varies between men.
4. The groin crease – this is the part at the top of his thighs that meets his torso; remember this area is very seldom touched, so exploring here is quite erotic.
5. His scrotum – this is a highly erotic area – not only because of its sensitivity but also its delicacy; remember to be gentle because squeezing the testicles too hard is sore, but it does feel good; sucking or licking the testicles is also a great idea.
6. The perianal section, or the perineum – giving your man attention here is supposed to be quite pleasant, but this does depend on the man.
7. The head of the penis – the head of the penis is possibly the most sensitive and pleasurable spot on a man’s body – most of the nerves are targeted here.
The most important thing to remember when it comes to getting your man off by hand is lubrication!
It has to be wet, slimy, slippery – if your hand gets sticky, it might chaff and this will get you, and him, nowhere.
How you keep his erection slippery is up to you – there are several lubricants on the market, but I would suggest going for a water-based lube instead of an oil-based one. KY Jelly is also not recommended, as it seems to work best with your natural secretions.
A good way to start is to ask your man beforehand how he masturbates. If he’s open enough, he might give you a hint or two on how he likes it.
Remember that his lower erogenous zones are not focused on his penis alone – his testacles can also be very sensitive and feeling you play with them can be very erotic. There is also the anogenital region, which, for some men, is great for stimulation. Apparently the area just below the head of his erect penis on the bottom is also very sensitive, so try that spot as well. Again, every man is different, so try to ask questions as you go along to make sure you’re getting it right.
Another trick is to vary the amount that you close your hand around his erection. Try tightening and loosening your fingers alternately – you’ll know how your man is liking it. Try to think about the rhythm and stroke your man uses when he is making love to you, and attempt to simulate it. Sometimes it’s fast and sometimes it’s slow, but the way your man reacts to your touch is really your cue on how well you’re doing and how much he’s enjoying it.
You can also try to use both hands, as this covers more surface area.
Try to tease him a little with your tongue and your mouth, but since this is a handjob, try not to get too carried away down there!
Women are renowned for using this excuse to get out of making love, mostly because we’re not in the mood, or for whatever reason.
My tip for this week: if you’re using this line as an excuse, rather be honest with your lover and tell them you’re not in the mood, you’re tired, you’re stressed at work… tell them the real reason you don’t want to make love.
Besides, you can’t really use the excuse because it has been proven that sex boosts your happiness levels, and this helps get rid of a headache – in other words, having sex and orgasming will relieve you in more ways than one.
If you really have a headache, here are some natural remedies you can try:
– Squeeze the juice out of three or four lemon slices into a cup of tea – it’s supposed to give immediate relief.
– Remove the rind and core of an apple and consume only the soft bits with a little bit of salt before eating.
– if your headache was caused by hot sun, rub some henna flowers – if you can find them! – in some vinegar and apply over your forehead.
– if your headache was caused by cold air, make a paste of the spice with water, and spread over the forehead and temples, or infuse rosemary leaves in water and inhale the smell for as long as you can.
– For nervous headaches, infuse marjoram leaves in some water and take it as a tea.
– Headaches can be prevented by a healthy diet and by drinking plenty of water. You can also try give yourself a hot foot bath, meditate or do some yoga!
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Romance can be both daunting and elusive, but it can be an essential part of a relationship.
Romance need not bring about any stress, as it has a variety of meanings and is a completely subjective part of the relationship. What is romantic to one couple might not be romantic to another couple, so it really depends on personal experience and taste.
But you do need to get the basics right!
Here are five things about being romantic you should never forget:
1. Remember the language of romance: certain words epitomize the language of love, and come all the way from the courtly love traditions of France and England. Here are some words you should know.
2. Compliment your lover’s skills! Telling them how talented and unique they are is certain to cause a little butterfly burst in their stomach. They need to know that you believe they are worth being with.
3. Compliment your lover’s looks. It is so important that your lover knows how beautiful or handsome you think they are. Telling them how attractive you find them is sure to keep you in their good books!
4. Remember what your lover likes: the type of flowers; the kind of food; their favorite chocolate. Remembering small details such as these will show your lover you care.
5. Keep it simple. Remember that to be romantic you don’t need to be extravagant. There is no need to send up an airplane declaring your love, although it is an amazing gesture. It is the little romances every day that keeps the spark alive for the long-term.
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