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Can we accept our roles as men’s equal?

I know we’re living in the 21st century. All women know that.

But how can we accept our new roles as being the equals of men?

I myself am guilty of this “feminist” sin – believing that men are better than me. I find myself becoming jealous at how easy it is for them to join a team, to get a hole-in-one or get that discarded paper ball in the rubbish bin with every toss, to be paid more for doing the same job, to be accepted into a senior role without feeling that you’ve done something wrong. And I think to myself that perhaps the men really are better than me after all.

But there are other things I’m jealous of men for: for not feeling the need to look over their shoulders every time they walk down a dark alley, to not feel as though they have to carry a bottle of pepper spray within easy reach, to not be afraid that when they hoot at a rude person on the road that they might step out of the car and want to harm them, to not feel as though simply walking through Checkers makes them feel as cold and objectified as the salami they’re walking past.

And the fact that I am actually afraid of men makes me realise that it is not them who are better than me. If all it takes to make men afraid of me is centuries of brainwashing about being the weaker of the species, centuries worth of literature telling women how they should be, centuries worth of violence against women being dusted under the carpet – if that’s all it takes, then they’re no better.

Without all those centuries, all we would be is…equal.

Dressing for success

I’ve often wondered why there are so many teenage girls out there who dare to bare as much as possible when they go out. What is it about dressing scantily that makes them think their dress sense will inspire admiration for their fashion sense?

Well, admittedly they’re only doing it to impress the male halves of our species, who catcall and whistle to show their admiration. Why is it that this is the kind of attention they think they should be getting?

But at the heart of it all, we have to ask, as Jennifer Moses asks, “Why do so many of us not only permit our teenage daughters to dress like this – like prostitutes, if we’re being honest with ourselves – but pay for them to do it with our AmEx cards?”

If we do deplore the way these girls, and perhaps our very own daughters, dress, why do we not deplore our own insanity in actually purchasing these items for them?

I am actually of the opinion that some parents of today would rather drop their daughters off at the nearest mall with their very own purchasing card just to get them out of the way for the day. So the parents are not technically the ones “allowing” their children to buy the clothes because they’re not actually there to monitor the clothes being bought. However, handing their children money for the day out or their own credit cards – a la Paris Hilton – is facilitating them.

What do you think?

5 worst countries to be a woman in

It was International Women’s Day this week, which is supposed to celebrate how far women have come in the world with regards to equality.

But every day we are faced with news of all kinds of abuses. Lara Logan‘s experience was one of these, as are thousands of women’s every day. Some of us are still at the mercy of abuse.

AOL wrote a story about the five worst places to be born a a woman. Although it was made clear that it’s difficult to determine which countries these are, since we can use different aspects  – everything from humanitarian issues and economic conditions to cultural and religious biases and literacy rates.

But a popular modern index to use for the comparisons is the UN Development Program’s Gender Inequality Index, which measures labor market participation, empowerment and reproductive health.

The countries with the worst scores are:

Photo by Bernard Gagnon

1. Yemen

This little country has the worst score. The country is known for the “violence and discrimination” women face every day in the Arabian country. At least 46.3% of women in the country had been abused by either their spouses or a family member. Most of the acts take place in homes, and consist of everything from intimidation and sexual violence to emotional abuse and home arrest. Over 50% of women were regularly intimidated, and over 54.5% would be at risk of physical violence!

Congo demonstrants 2. Democratic Republic of Congo

Violence against women in the Congo has not ended, as evidenced by the recent mass rapes the rebels undertook in the country. Sexual violence has been used by a weapon of war by all sides, despite the women having nothing to do with the fighting.

Niarney, Niger capital3. Niger

In Niger, one in seven women will die in childbirth. Rapes and beatings of women is seen as “normal” behavior.

Mali

Photo by Martin Wegmann

4. Mali

This African country tried to improve women’s equality in the country. What happened? Widespread protests and street demonstrations against the movement. There is also still a firm belief in female genital mutilation.

v5. Afghanistan

Women’s rights are clearly not a priority in this country. Women are stoned for being raped, and they are the mercy of their husband’s and male family members’ whims. One woman had her nose and ears sliced off by her husband.

The best place to be born female: the Netherlands!

 

Sonograms compulsory before abortions?

Photo by Phaniop88, from FreeDigitalPhotos.Net

Texan women will have to have a sonogram before they opt for an abortion.

According to the author of the bill, Republican state Representative Sid Miller said that this measure is aimed at making sure the women are “fully informed, that they understand the medical consequences, the psychological consequences and everything involved in the procedure”.

I translate this as meaning “emotional blackmail”. It means that if a woman is faced with the view of the little baby inside her, gets to hear its heartbeat, then they will feel bad, or feel love, or feel whatever, to inspire them to not abort the baby, regardless of the actual purpose for them to consider abortion.

Surely this type of thing could cause more psychological trauma because if the woman still wishes to go through with the abortion she’ll have that image and sound in her head for the rest of her life?

Photo by Phanlop88 from FreeDigitalPhotos.net

More about the Pic of the Week – March 5

Women are always at the center of life.

Women in Iran in the 15th century could attend intellectual discussions, though it was unusual, but female scholars decreased in the 15th century. Marriages were more frequent back then, with some women in Egypt and Syria marrying more than once – even sometimes more than three times. It appears that as many as three out of ten marriages in the 15th century in Egypt ended in divorce.

In the Quran, women are regarded as the equals of men before God in terms of their religious duties, while men are still responsible for their care. However, it stresses that men and women were created for each other’s mutual benefit.

The religious text also considers the love between men and women to be a sign of God. Some believe that Islam joins sexual pleasure within marriage, and a high value is placed on female chastity.

For more about Women in Islam, click here.